2.08.2010

"Those" Words

The newest, the latest, another peak. Autism, ups and downs, rounds and rounds. You'd think after all these years, I'd know what to expect. He's already 15, I've been delaing with this for years. But yet again, my world is thrown for a loop, and I'm stunned, staring with a deer in the headlights look, caught unaware.

Kaeden has started cussing. This isn't something really new. He gets frustrated or angry and out come 'those' words. He can't express what he means and 'those' words get a reaction. We remind him (sometimes gently, sometimes in anger) that 'those' are not words we appreciate hearing from the lips of our babe. That 'those' words are not respectful, and indeed are very rude.

So, no, it's not new. But the style with which he's started using 'those' words is new. It isn't when he's angered or frustrated. It isn't when he's confused. It's more like he thinks this is the new cool and he's going to be the coolest kid on the block. He walks around muttering Shit, Damn, Fuck and Jesus Christ all day long, adding 'those' words to each and every sentence which leaves his mouth. "Jesus Christ, this is fucking good coffee." "Shit, I can't find that goddamn movie." "What the hell? Where did I put my fucking coat?" "Mom, Know what? I learned a fucking cool new move at Judo"!"

And it's annoying me. I may ocassionaly allow a curse word to pass my lips, but it's not something that is typical in our home. We don't use 'those' words in everyday conversation. But Kaeden does, and I am not sure how much more I can listen to before I explode. I constantly remind him to stop, I explain that it isn't nice, and I even send him to his room to get control of himself. But he simply continues.

Another stage of autism, another peak on the rollercoaster ride. Any ideas?

5 comments:

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Tanya @ TeenAutism said...

Ah, yes. We encountered this as well. I told Nigel that if he repeated "those" words from movies I had allowed him to watch, then he wouldn't be allowed to watch the movies any more. It worked like a charm, but probably because he's such a movie lover. Hope you find something that will work for Kaeden!

Jen R. (emeraldsunshine.org) said...

If it is the words themselves that bother you and not the intent (i.e., "fuck" vs swearing), then you two could come up with your own "swearing" word. Something nonsensical such as, "Trunk latches, that's great coffee!" Or, "That judo move was bee's knees!" Okay, both of those suck, but I'm sure you see what I'm saying?

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